When I got pregnant for the first time, I was 21 years old. I was so excited. Then, at eight weeks, I miscarried.
The doctors told me it was “normal” and that miscarriages happen. As heartbreaking as it was, I accepted their answer because I didn’t know any different.
Then it happened again. And again. By the time I was around 30 years old and had experienced my third miscarriage, a doctor finally looked a little deeper. That’s when I heard the words:
“You have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).”
Excuse the fawk out of me… PCOS? Nobody had ever mentioned that before. Then they added something else. I had a fibroid growing inside my uterus that needed to be removed. I remember thinking…
How have I been dealing with all of this, and nobody told me?
I left that appointment with more questions than answers.
Deciding to Try Again
Years later, when my husband and I decided we wanted to grow our family, I knew I couldn’t do things the same way.
The first thing I did was schedule appointments with my doctors. I wanted blood work. I wanted answers. I wanted to make sure nothing else was going on besides the PCOS and fibroids.
Thankfully, everything else looked good. The only other thing they mentioned was that I have a tilted uterus.
At that point, I realized something. Simply being told to “eat fewer carbs and drink more water” wasn’t enough for me. I wanted a real plan.
What I Changed
I became intentional. I focused on:
- Taking the vitamins recommended by my healthcare providers.
- Making healthier food choices.
- Exercising consistently.
- Managing my stress as best I could.
- Staying on top of my doctor’s appointments.
- Addressing my fibroids and, later, having uterine polyps removed when they were found.
None of those things guaranteed a pregnancy. But they helped me feel like I was doing everything I could to support my health.
Faith Was Part of My Journey Too
If you’ve followed me for a while, you already know my faith played a huge role in my journey. There were days I cried. Days I wanted to give up. Days I questioned everything. But I kept praying. I kept showing up. I kept believing.
My Story Isn’t Your Story
Today, I’m blessed to be the mother of two beautiful children after seven pregnancies. My journey wasn’t easy.
It included miscarriages, surgeries, doctor appointments, lifestyle changes, and more tears than I can count.
That’s why I always tell women this:
Don’t compare your fertility journey to someone else’s.
Your timeline won’t look exactly like mine. Your treatment plan may be different. Your diagnosis may be different. But your story is still being written. Never lose hope.
If you’re trying to conceive with PCOS, work closely with a healthcare provider you trust, advocate for yourself, and don’t be afraid to ask questions until you get the answers you deserve.
And most importantly… Be kind to yourself. You’re doing better than you think. If you’d like to hear more about my fertility journey, watch my YouTube video where I share more of my story:
🎥 Watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Yvf5kgGjME
With love,
– Yoni Mack